Together
in the shadow of God, Introduction and Contents
Thoughts succeed in unison. When they are in unison with everything as it is, they are in unison with that spirit-mind that has thought everything as it is.
In this unison we think in unison with the movements of this spirit-mind, in unison with its spiritual movement. Therefore these thoughts succeed, for in that moment they are thought by something greater. We think these thoughts in unison with this greater force, or more precisely, this greater something thinks them in us and with us, and it takes us into its service through these thoughts. These thoughts lead us to this greater force in a way that within these thoughts we experience ourselves at one with this greater force.
These thoughts make us wise. This means: In unison with these thoughts, we know whether something will work, whether something will help, whether they will set something into motion where we can succeed.
These thoughts are gifts to us. First to the one who received them. In this person they move something that until then appeared to be beyond his or her personal thinking, and beyond his or her personal possibilities, and above all beyond the scope of this persons love.
Our thoughts in unison with this greater force, in unison with this spirit- mind that includes everything in its thinking, are thoughts of love. Therefore as they are given to us, they bring about a movement that serves love.
These thoughts give us permission to become wide, like them. Through them, more and more of what appears in our life and in our love, can turn to each other with respect and love: with the kind of love that turns to everything as it is moved by this spirit and taken into its service.
So what do we really succeed in when these thoughts are given to us? We succeed in love, in all-encompassing love, in wide open love.
With these thoughts, wisdom is traveling on, and we are on our way together with wisdom. We are traveling on together with the kind of wisdom that works wherever we allow it to take us into its service.
How do we know most deeply that our thoughts are thoughts of wisdom? When they go beyond us and take others along with us into the movement of love for all that is, as it is.
About this book
This book came about without any intention. Sometimes I had a sense that something took me into its service, as from that moment on I could not focus on anything else, even though other things often seemed to be urgent. Sometimes I tried to resist, attempting to get something else done- but to no avail.
Eventually I gave in, sat down, put a piece of paper in front of me, willing to write. Often I had no idea what I was supposed to write, and what it was about. Then suddenly a word came, and I put the pen to the paper without knowing where it would take me. So I started with the first sentence. Then the next one came. I kept on writing, and then all of a sudden it went stroke by stroke and line by line.
In between I realized where these thoughts were supposed to lead. Sometimes they appeared outrageous. How could I dare say something like this! But the movement had a tight grip on me, I had to obey.
Like this a text on a topic was written, quite on its own accord, without any connection to a previous text.
When such a text was finished, I put the piece of paper aside, let it sit there for a while, and then transferred it onto my computer. Afterwards what I had written left my consciousness and my memory, as if it had just passed through me and past me. This way the various texts and chapters of this book emerged over a long period, more than a year.
But still, these thoughts really had a special effect on me. As incredible as they appeared at times, way beyond my everyday thinking, beyond the limits of my ordinary conscience, they were still tenable and true for my soul, for the source within me, where I experienced myself carried by the infinite spirit, moved and taken into its service.
However not in the sense that I could comprehend them as if they were mine. I handed myself over to them, while they were still present with me, I put myself into their guidance, until the next group of thoughts came that carried me beyond them and left them behind. Therefore even these thoughts, as mightily as they had grabbed me, appeared preliminary after some time.
From this experience I felt it was appropriate to read these thoughts to an audience first, may be even just a chapter at a time. This way, everyone stays recollected: me who is reading, and the listeners who take these thoughts in as the moment allows it for them.
Still, now I publish these thoughts as a book as well. It is a contemplative book, a preliminary book. For the truth is always on the road. It is traveling on forever. It is love in progress. Loves thoughts succeed- always.
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Bert Hellinger
Together in the shadow of God
Thoughts that succeed
Contents
Introduction
About this book
WHO, IF I SCREAMED,
WOULD HEAR ME FROM THE ANGELIC ORDERS?
In you
Life
Expelled
Creation
Expansion
One
Nothing else
The future
Oh come and stay
Now it is time
AND SO I HOLD MYSELF BACK AND SWALLOW
THE BECKONING CALL OF DARK SOBBINGS
Who thinks, who suffers, who loves?
Vanishing
With a lot of effort
Greatness
The light
Upright
I and we
Being with each other
Infinitely there
Enlightenment
FOR STAYING IS NOWHERE
Farewell
Alone
Transient
Nameless
Changing images
Given and forgiven
Serving
Brought home
Better
Devoted surrender
MAY THE REFLECTION OFTEN BLUR FOR US
IN THE POND: KNOW THE IMAGE.
The other God
Comparing
Reality
Farewell to Jesus
Spirit moves where it wants to
Who is like God?
Collected
Kept inside
Interventions
Waiting
NOWHERE, BELOVED, WILL WORLD BE
BUT INSIDE
The blessing
Trust
Where am I?
Warned
Missing out
Timeless
There
Space
Secret
Progress
SO WE LIVE AND ARE ALWAYS
TAKING LEAVE
I am coming
Playing with thoughts
Seriously
Made up
The body
Getting off
Oh further then, yes further
Oh come and go
Finally
Alls well that ends well
EXCESS OF BEING WELLS UP IN MY HEART
Guilty
The spiritual path
Going astray
In between
What for
Purification
Patience
Morals
Pretence
Against
DO YOU HEAR THE NEW, LORD,
ROARING AND TREMBLING ?
Power
Riddle
Thinking
Surpassed
I am waiting
Branching out
The same
Said
The movement
A bit
THERE S ONE, HE TAKES THEM ALL
INTO HIS HAND
Fear
Coercion
Sleeping peacefully
The leg to stand on
Renouncing
Too much
Enough
Content
Little things
Individually
The distance
Boundless
Central
THERE IS ALWAYS LOOKING ON
The future
Less
Replacement
Complete
Com-passion
My body
Well being
Income
Forgetting
Equanimity
Dreams
Happiness
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Journeys
to the Core
JOURNEYS TO THE CORE
EXPERIENCES CONTEMPLATIONS
EXAMPLES
CONTENTS
Introduction
THE PATH
RECOLLECTION
Going with the moment
Freedom
Plans
..
.
Above
...
The door
..
..
Far
.
Back
..
Daily life
Taking action.................................
Ordinary..........................................
Well to do....................................
In agreement..................................
Receiving........................................
Taking heart......................................
Deeply moved....................................
The word..........................................
Nothing that is, was.......................
Over................................................
Thoughts paleness........................
Crises............................................
The terrible......................................
Indulgence........................................
Yielding...........................................
LOVE...............................................
The spirit.........................................
Going with the spirit
The love of the spirit
Harmony
...
The wide
The heart
..
The peace
.
Equal
The truth
The One
.
Inside and outside
Heartfelt
The duration
. . .
Woken up
.
.
The message
.
PURIFICATION....................................
The good
Pure
Healing
Aimed
Abandoned
.
Tidied up
..
The inner space
The two worlds
Against me
.
Inner hearing
Delusion
Who is there?
INNER SIGHT....
...........................
The spiritual sight
...
The far sight
..
The waiting
The endlessness
The wonderment
.
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The presentiment
The relief
..
I am alive
....
The time
....
What for
Distance
.
Boundaries
..
.
Provisions
.
Thinking
........
It
Devoted surrender
Individually
.
..
The world
.
Yes
.
THE DIVINE
Service.........................................
Doubt............
....................
The task
..........
....................
Slowed down
...
Stop
The centre.
..
Whole
.
..
Holy
..
Human
..
The other
...
Fear
..
The coming
...
Strictness...........
....................
Mistakes.....................
..................
The wrong.....................
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Presented
Welcome
At home again
...
The doorstep
The transition
..
.
Rapt
...
.
Grace
Being human
..
.
The divine
.
.
Over
.
EXAMPLES
The birth of God in us
The divine is acting
.
Experiencing healing spiritually
.
Disorder and Order
....
Ties and growing
.
Practicing goodwill
..
Taking on suffering
.
Holding on and letting go
Going with the spirit and spiritual healing
Heart- Work
..
.
The hands
The miracles of love
Final notes
.
.
Heart- work once more
Our images of other people
Our images of justice
Our images of God
The god-experience
The movement of life
..
The surrender
Our own death
Love at the abyss
.
Love of the subconscious conscience
Goodwill for all
...
.
Entanglement..................................
The knowing love
The preference
Our blind love
The path of purification
Love that leads away from the abyss
The circle
Peace for the dead
...
The freedom
.
CONTEMPLATIONS AT THE END
Death and life
The transient
The future
.
Love and suffering
Completed in the face of the invisible
GUIDE THROUGH THE PUBLICATIONS
OF BERT HELLINGER
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Rising in love
A Philosophy of Being
Contents
Introduction and overview
The spiritual dimension
Freedom
Worries and concerns
The future and the now
Love
About this book
The beginnings
Introduction
Guilt and innocence in relationships
The balance
One: Sitting on the fence
Completeness
Two: The helper syndrome
Three: Exchange
Passing on
The Golden Ball
Gratitude
Only thanking
Homecoming
Happiness
Equilibrium
Injury and loss
The way out
Helplessness
Double displacement
The Avenger
Forgiveness
The Second Round
Reconciliation
The Aha- Experience
Suffering
Good and bad
Belonging to us
Belonging elsewhere
Fate
Humility
Order and abundance
The limits of conscience
The Answer
Guilt and Innocence
Preconditions
The Difference
Different relationships
Order
Appearances
The Players
The Spell
Belonging
Consideration
Loyalty
Making room
Loyalty and illness
Boundaries
Goodness
Family Conscious
The Right to Belong
Repetition compulsion
Order of rank
The longing
The trembling
The fear
Gone astray
The atonement
The Solution
The Insight
The Path
Orders of Love between Parents and Children and within a Group
Order and Love
Different orders
Parents and Children
The Roman Fountain
Honouring
The Gift of Life
Thanksgiving at the Morning of Life
Refusal
Something special
What our parents give us
What belongs to our parents
Arrogance
The community of fate
Kith and Kin
The ties of kinship
Completeness
Tribal liability
The equal right to belong
The Orders of love
Orders of love: between man and woman and in relation to the greater whole
Man and woman
Father and mother
Desire
The act of love
The ties between husband and wife
Jealousy
The ties of the flesh
The basso continuo
The deficit
Fathers son and mothers daughter
Animus and Anima
On both sides
Following and serving
Equality
Measures of exchange
Different patterns of relating
Entanglements
Commitment
Relinquishing
As if
The spiritual conscience
Introduction
The different consciences
The personal conscience
a. Belonging
b. Good and Bad
The collective conscience
a. Completeness
b. The instinct
c. Belonging beyond death
d. Who belongs?
e. Only love resolves
f. Who else belongs to the family?
g. The balance
h. Atonement and penance
i. Revenge
j. Healing
k. The law of priority
l. The violation of the law of priority and the
consequences
m. The scope of the collective conscience
The spiritual conscience
The different consciences and family-constellations
The spiritual conscience
a. The distinctions among the different consciences
b. The spiritual family-constellations
The personal conscience
The collective conscience
Conclusions
Contemplations
Burning away
Guidance
The quest
Goodwill
Expectations
Ahead of us
Lightness
In harmony
Being there
Awareness
The bond
What causes illness in families and what heals
Introduction
Love that brings illness and love that heals
Family loyalty and its consequences
Similarity and balance
Illness follows the soul
Better me than you
Love with open eyes
Me for you
Even if you go, Ill stay
I will follow you
I will go on living for a little while
Misleading hopes
Love that heals
Illness as atonement
Compensation through penance is misfortune
doubled
Compensation through acceptance and
reconciling action
Doing penance instead of relating
Guilt comes to an end on this earth
Illness as vicarious penance
Illness as the result of refusing to take ones parents
Honouring parents
Emptiness
Further publications on healing
Health and healing from a spiritual perspective
The love of the spirit
Loving our parents the spiritual way
The child
The other love
Meditation: The farewell
The path
The moment
Injured equality
The entanglement
The solution
Guilt and atonement
The spiritual level
Psychoses, the love at the abyss
An example
What leads to psychosis
Psychoses as perpetrators, psychotics as victims
Psychoses as a family problem
The helpers
Exercise: the spiritual love
Our love at the abyss
The love of the unconscious conscience
Goodwill for all
Entanglement
Knowing love
The law of priority
Our blind love
The path of purification
Meditation: Love that leads away from the abyss
The circle
Peace to the dead
Freedom
Speech disorders: Dissonant voices in tune with the unseen
Stammering and schizophrenia
Stammering in fear of an internalized person
Stammering because a family secret is not
permitted to come to light
Relief
Reconciling what is in opposition
Exercise for the stammerer: You and I- both of us.
How we grow
Exercise: Reconciliation in the soul
Example: Stammering and schizophrenia
Explanations
Saying the words
Naming Things
Words of creative truth
Autism
Publications on Psychoses and speech disorders
Spiritual family-constellations in one sentence
The procedure
Example: a 12-year old boy has a nervous tick
The participant nods
Example: a 40-year old man with diarrhea
Example: a 15-year old boy injures himself and
has panic attacks
Example: a 35-year old woman can only take
liquid food
Example: a 37-year old man is paralyzed on
right side
The inner movement
Meditation: Our own sentence
Short supervisions
The future
A boy loses his speech
Exercise: Going with the spirit
Helping in resonance with the whole
Preliminary remarks
Helping as a profession
Helping as giving and taking
Professional helping
When are we permitted to help?
Helping with respect
Safe helping
Helping others to grow
Orders of helping
Helping, what does it mean?
Helping as balance and helping as a flow
Giving only what we have and taking what we need
Remaining within the realm of possibility
The prototype of helping: parents and children
Helping among equals
Considering the clients whole family
Helping without judging
Helping beyond good and bad
Helping without regret
Helping in harmony with great challenges
A special perception
Observation, perception, insight, intuition, resonance
Helping in resonance with the soul
The therapeutic attitude
The questions to ask the client
The beginning of love
Love and strength
The love of the helper
The embracing and containing soul
Simple psychotherapy
Love and fate
Helping in resonance with the family
Helping in resonance with the parents
Resonance with our own family
Resonance with other families
Resonance with other helpers
Goodwill
How helping succeeds
The last place
The order of priority
Greatness
The therapeutic relationship
Taking action
Control
In the service of life
Eagerness
Resonance and courage
Power struggles
Toughness
Empathy
Systemic empathy
The great soul
Non-doing
The night of the soul
Refusing to act
The warrior
Winning and loosing
Opposites
Mistakes
The well
Images that ease
The initial image
The images of healing
Two kinds of feelings
Primary feelings
Dramatic feelings
Dreams
The kind eye and the evil eye
Helping that makes a difference
The matter at hand
Short and precise
A matter of life and death
The farthest bounds
Respect
Recollection
Another dimension
Humility
Having pity
The disrupted movement towards mother
Letting go of the dead
Actions towards resolution
Fear
Caution
The river
Helping between equals
Above and below
Taking action
Moaning
Incidents
Inner family-constellations
Helping by handing over
Truth brought to light
Fate
The scope of personal freedom
Our family as fate
The line of generations
The healing power
The great fate
Early death
Spiritual family-constellations
Introduction
What is new in spiritual family-constellations?
The philosophy
The body
The soul
The human spirit
The creative spirit
Spiritual family-constellations
The spiritual field
The movements of the spirit-mind
The familys spiritual field
Field and soul
The family soul
Conscience
Justice
Spirit in captivity
The phenomenological path of insight
The mode of proceeding
Meditation: the distance
The soul
The other direction
Deeply serious
The scope
The lost soul
Clarity
Restoring severed connections
In our family
In the clients family
Dissonance and resonance
Family-constellations of a different kind
Wishes
Dimensions of helping
The presence of non- doing
Beginners
Trusting the soul
Protection
The incomplete
Growing in accord
Non-doing
Taking different roads
A story: knowledge and knowing
Further publications on helping
Man and woman
Man and woman from a spiritual perspective
Respect
Consent
The love of the spirit
Faithfulness
Who follows whom?
Example: Looking beyond the partner
Exercise: Going with the spirit
Lenience
Example: Happiness that lasts
Further publications on the topic: Man and woman
Children in distress
All children are good
Meditation: Us as difficult children
A story for an orphan child
Helping children
Example: disabled child: Now I agree
Introduction
The constellation
Example: Aborted children are represented
The consequences for the woman
The effects on the children
Consequences for the partner relationships
References for books and videos on the subject children in distress
Large scale conflicts
Introduction
References for publications on reconciliation
Major conflict
The will to annihilate
Displacement of the will to destroy
Justice
Conscience
The threat of the new
Internalizing the rejected
The field
Field and conscience
Madness
Summary
The great peace
Love
Exchange
The shared conscience
Powerlessness
The triumph
The insight
Inner peace
The perception
Another conscience
Another love
Peace to the peoples
Reconciliation between peoples
Example: Constellation for Hungary
The experiences of Hungarys representative
Peace to the peoples
Story: A Change of heart (or: The turning point)
Spiritual religion
Introduction
The love of god
God and the gods
In His Image
Another kind of God
Example: Jesus and Caiaphas
Introduction
Example: Ishmael and Isaac
Caiaphas and Jesus
The spiritual path of insight
The constellation
Reflections
References to publications on the theme of religion
Story: The turning point
Reflections
Put your house in order
On the lookout
Freedom
Arrived
Life going on and on
Withdrawal
Peace
Enough
Gone
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